At times, I like to watch my hands. I delight in the way the fingers bend and articulate; how the nails act as makeshift tools that scratch, tear and, perhaps most importantly, pick. And then there are the thumbs. I adore how those stubby little creatures (the ones that supposedly elevate us above all other sentient beings on this spinning orb) cooperate so well with the other fingers – despite their noble status. 

“What are your thoughts on the thumb?” I ask my friend, James. We’re sitting by the large front window at our favorite café on a late Saturday morning. The café is noisy for my taste and I’m self-stimming by stretching and closing my fingers in a slow-motion fashion – as though they’re underwater. 

James opens his mouth slightly, a devilish grin spreading across his face. “Did I tell you that I saw Ricky last night with that queen from the gym?” he says, the smile morphing into a scowl.

“No,” I say, staring down into my tea. “You just got here. How would you have told me?”

He shrugs.

“Anyhow, you didn’t answer my question.”

“What question?” he asks, his glacial blue eyes bloodshot from last night. I can safely assume he hasn’t yet gone to bed.

“What do you think about the thumb?”

“Oh, yeah. That,” he says with boredom in his voice. He leans back, observes his nails with disdain, and scrunches up his nose. “Honestly? I thought you were being ironic or something.”

“Nope.”

“I don’t know what I think about the thumb,” he whines and lets out a long sigh. “God, Ricky is such a bitch. Can you believe he’d do this to me?”

“You broke up six months ago,” I say.

“So?”

“And you broke up with him!”

James stares at me, perplexed.

“I’m just not up for the gossip today, James,” I say, turning to look out the window. There’s a row of formidable forsythia bushes that are, in concert, coming into bloom. I can almost hear them humming.

“Well,” he starts with a huff and glares at me. “What crawled up your ass?”

“Nothing has crawled up my ass,” I say, defensively. I am agitated, though unsure of the reason. “I’m just feeling, I don’t know… analytical.”

He circles his head and sighs as he leans back in his chair. “No offense, Sasha, but you were much more fun before you got on this Pole Tech wisdom kick.”

“Toltec,” I correct him.  

“Whatever. I’ll take the pole any day,” he laughs at his tired and played-out joke. I roll my eyes. 

I resent his saying this, as I’m not on a Toltec wisdom kick. I just appreciate the Four Agreements from their philosophy. I tried to discuss them with James a couple of months ago and only got as far as the First Agreement, which is to use impeccable speech.  

“Impeccable speech? What’s that supposed to mean?” he’d asked, rolling his eyes and heavily resting his head in his hand to demonstrate his serious lack of interest.

“Basically, it means using your speech to communicate something worthwhile. Otherwise, keep your mouth shut.”

He’d given me a blank stare. “Not computing.”

“It means, for starters, don’t gossip,” I clarified.

He’d looked at me in disbelief, his mouth gaping open, as though I’d just asked him for a lung. Then he’d laughed. “Please!” He’d waved his hand at me and shaken his head. “Everybody gossips. It’s one of life’s pleasures. And how is it not communicating something worthwhile?”

“Have you ever considered how it could be harmful? To the person you’re maligning, and to yourself?”

“Nuh-uh,” he’d said, shaking his head vigorously and placing his hand on mine, a glimmering ruby ring on his middle finger that Ricky had given him last year in one of their many commitment ceremonies. He also wore a rainbow bracelet that signaled to the world he was gay – in case the ruby ring, eye liner, gorgeous scarf, and overwhelming presence weren’t doing the trick. “Silly. You’ve got it all wrong. It’s only harmful if you say it to their face. That’s why you do it behind their back!”

I knew then I was fighting a losing battle.  “Forget it,” I’d said.

“I’d love to,” he’d smiled, then sipped on some ridiculous no fat, no sugar, extra caffeinated coffee drink. It was the same concoction he sipped on now.

“I personally think the thumb is really cool,” I say. “Though I suspect it may have a Napoleonic complex.”

“Hmmmmmm,” he holds out his hands in front of him. “It is the most Napoleon like of the digits. Still, I don’t know. My thumbs are pretty… impeccable,” he mocks.  

I sneer at him. “Very nice.”

“Well, at least I was listening!”

“There is that,” I agree.

He nods. “Because I’m always listening.”

I decide not to address the sheer fallacy of that statement. “I do find it ironic,” I continue, “that scientists are always harping on how the opposable thumb makes us more advanced than all the other species.”

“Mmm-hmmm,” James mutters absentmindedly, betraying his previous statement about always listening. He’s clearly not looking at me, but rather through me at what I can only assume is some guy with a perfect ass behind me.

“And yeah, the thumb enables us to do all sorts of things that no other species can do. But is that a really such a good thing?” I query. “I mean, how many shitty things are we relegated to do simply because we can? And how is that advanced? It seems kind of backwards, if you ask me.”

He glances back at me again.  “Yes. What’s with you and thumbs today?”

“I don’t know,” I say sadly. “I think maybe we take them for granted.”

James squints at me and cocks his head. “You are SO cryptic sometimes.”

I smile. Along with the engineering marvel that is the hand, I have an affinity for words with multiple consonants but just one single vowel holding it all together. Kind of like the thumb. And I’m drifting off into other twisty twirly thoughts when James breaks my reverie.

“Sash?” 

“Huh?”

He holds out his hand, cocks a brow, and extends his index finger. “Pull my finger.”

I roll my eyes. “Shut up.”

“Seriously. Pull my finger.”

I pull his finger and rather than blowing a raspberry, he yells, “Yeeeee-haw!” Several heads turn, some of the faces disdainful. I can’t entirely blame them. He was rather loud. Still, I smile.

“Let’s get outta here,” he says, getting up suddenly and grabbing my hand. 

“Where are we going?” 

“I saw the most fabulous hat at Francesca’s Vintage,” he says. “I don’t want some other ridiculous queen to get it.” We walk out of the café hand in hand; my thumb pressing against his. And I realize that without our thumbs, we wouldn’t truly be holding hands.

“Which reminds me,” he pauses. “You’ll never guess what I heard about her.”

“Don’t go there,” I scold.

“I’m kidding,” he smiles at me and I feel a sudden compulsion to never lose my love for the cryptic, the weird, the irreverent, and, of course, the thumb.