“Those who are to be his friends he knows instantly, and further acquaintance adds little to the intimacy and warm friendship that he at once feels for them. On the other hand, those who do not respond to him immediately cannot by any effort either on his part or theirs overcome that first alienation.”
-Randolph Bourne, The Handicapped
“You need to calm down and wax,” says one of my closest friends, Elizabeth. “Wax” is the way her mouth pronounces the word “relax.” She’s right.